In case you face threats or actual legal cases like DV, CrPC 125, 498A, 406 from your wife who also has a boyfriend, the situation can be turned to an advantage, of course only if one is able to get over the shock of the whole fraud which has been perpetrated, and assess things from thereon. The context of this post refers to those marriages where the wife starts to show erratic behaviour etc right in beginning of married life (read Advice to men post for details). Many such women come from feminist/matriarchal families, and if not outright feminist family, …[Continue Reading]
Dowry, Stridhan, Cruelty under 498a, marriage expenses, and more
I haven’t taken any dowry Before people say “I haven’t taken any dowry”, shouldn’t it be clear to know about the keyword dowry. Basically, dowry harassment is the phrase used when women and her in-laws want to do one or more of following: Keep husband under thumb, make him leave his parents (after marriage, of course before marriage nothing of that sort will be said), make him ghar jamai etc. So this can be teach the husband to be a pet, or teach the husband a lesson so he compromises the 498a and takes wife back promising to be loyal …[Continue Reading]
Want to save your property? Oppose Marriage Laws Amendment (2010) bill
Update 3-Mar-2015: There was some news that government may drop marriage amendment bill (which introduces Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage OR IrBM clause), but we cannot be too sure since there seems to be an inexplicable urge behind this bill, presumably to appease the international media that India is not just a women oppressive regime, or a rape and gang-rape country. It’s another matter that rape and other crime statistics are much higher in these developed countries who report the crimes in India. So it’s up to each individual to continue to send speed post/registered letters against this bill, else you …[Continue Reading]
Flaws in marriage amendment (2010) bill aka IrBM Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage
According to latest news, the marriage amendment (2010) bill which was passed during UPA regime in 2013 in Rajya Sabha is now being resurrected and hurriedly being re-introduced in Winter session of Parliament starting on 24th Nov 2014. The bill allows wife to get divorce and also lay a claim on on dear husband’s property after merely staying separately for 3 years. http://economictimes.indiatimes.com/news/politics-and-nation/government-plans-bill-to-make-marriage-laws-women-friendly/articleshow/45165307.cms?intenttarget=no The bill in its various forms: originally proposed 2010 version, and the 2013 version passed by Rajya Sabha is available below: http://www.prsindia.org/billtrack/the-marriage-laws-amendment-bill-2010-1227 There is fundamental flaw in the bill that it brings in a no-fault divorce …[Continue Reading]
The price of marriage is forever saying sorry to wife
The high court of Kolkata has taken over the mantle of sermonising the duties of a man towards his wife. From previous year pronouncement of Justice Katju of SC — “do what your wife tells you and never question her authority”, to another pronouncement this year by Justice Deepak Verma of SC that “Whenever a person is married, there is no question of independence”. If the allegations against this cop are really true, then a sorry is not enough, and it is a fit case for criminal prosecution – under a relevant section of IPC. But the judges seem to …[Continue Reading]
Press Release: Marital dispute is not crime
PRESS RELEASE Subject: Section 498a must be scrapped by Indian Parliament on April 16th, otherwise Shoaib’s case will create a dangerous precedent. Shoaib Malik reportedly gave 15 Crores (approx 3 million USD) to Ayesha Siddique for putting an end to their dispute after she files a complaint under section 498a of IPC. So, it is clear that the whole drama was for money and nothing else from the very beginning. Out of court settlement under threats of jailing under section 498a are unconstitutional misuses of powers given to police. Marital disputes are civil disputes. They have to be solved in …[Continue Reading]
Why marriage is a losing game for urban men?
The social reality for any kind of marriage has changed in India, I think after year 2001 or so. (Maybe it coincided with large scale job creation for middle classes). Now, a woman who earns 1/3rd income of husband and gets housework done through maids etc paid for by husband; still thinks she is in some way superior to husband. This is the effect of financial freedom (read parasitic freedom) and easy social environment for women in large cities at least. Some women may actually be doing good work in managing both career and household, but the point I am …[Continue Reading]
Women empowerment – Chinese way
Some Chinese women have taken to dancing on streets in underwear in a bid to attract men/husbands. And I thought the sex-ratio in China was skewed towards men, so actually it should be men doing a show on the street to attract women for marriage! Well girls, don’t blame men if you can’t find husbands. http://current.com/1pl3c4c A group of masked women caused controversy in China by dancing in the street in their underwear in a bid to find husbands. The eight young women said they were coming under intense pressure from their families to settle down before “it was too …[Continue Reading]
God save Indian women — NCW says no swayamvar for them
After Rakhi Sawant’s swayamvar reality show where she chose her husband (or so we thought), a new show has started where Rahul Mahajan will be choosing a wife for himself. Nothing gets Indians so excited than prospect of seeing a marriage party! However NCW does not seem to be too happy about people making their own choices in marriage. http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/NCW-trains-guns-on-Rahul-Mahajan-reality-show-/articleshow/5524923.cms NEW DELHI: National Commission for Women has written to I&B ministry asking it to ensure prevention of indecent portrayal of women in a forthcoming reality show on a bride hunt for Rahul Mahajan. “I have seen the advertisement only. However, …[Continue Reading]
Indian woman thinks of marriage as pious bonding, but sex before marriage is ok!
A recent Delhi High Court judgment has ruled that having sex with fiancée and then breaking off engagement will be taken as crime of rape. http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/delhi/Sex-with-false-promise-of-marriage-is-rape-HC/articleshow/5525620.cms Justice V K Jain refused to grant bail to the man, Nishant (name changed), who had filed a petition for anticipatory bail in a case where he is accused of raping a girl who was approved by his family and had even got engaged to him. On one hand society is getting permissive in terms of sex, what with 3-4 sex surveys being done every year in weekly magazines, reality shows where women mouth …[Continue Reading]
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