Friends, many a husbands have gone through the un-envious situation of having to deal with a wife who has dragged them to CAW cell/mahila thana, to police, or filed cases like DV/CrPC 125; and if that was not enough, later she proclaims that she wants to come back, or even files an RCR (restitution of conjugal rights) petition on husband in family court. I have already outlined in this post in some detail on how to handle such now-I-hate-you-now-I-want-you type of wife. But I have realized that the “thanks but no thanks” approach is not working out for many husbands, who want to give one more chance to wife (or to marriage) to come back and make their life into the promised heaven that it was supposed to be when they got married. For such husbands, these are the brilliant or … [Read more...] about Template/Format for newspaper apology by wife for filing false complaint or cases
How to safeguard from false cases by wife–Part 1
“How should I safeguard myself and my parents from false cases?” – is one of the most common question raised by men -- after having given a brief or not so brief write-up of their story of abuse/threats/false allegations/insults/humiliation at the hands of wife. In many of these instances, the husband and family are already facing multiple cases filed against them, so the question about how-to-safeguard seems to be after the fact. Maybe many people are scared and expecting the skies to fall down as the cases progress forward, so whatever may be the individual feelings, the question about how-to-safeguard still remains there, waiting to be asked, and probably any answer will not be able to satisfy them fully. The intention behind their question is not merely to find out about how to … [Read more...] about How to safeguard from false cases by wife–Part 1
How to handle jewellery bills shown by wife in 406, 498A, stridhan
As per the Dowry Prohibition (DP) Act, a list of gifts given to either bride or bridegroom by either side has to be maintained in a list of articles. So there are supposed to be 2 lists really. That’s the theory, but for all practical purposes no one at time of marriage is trying to follow the DP Act to it’s letter, so this law is followed mostly in breach and it’s a useless law for all practical purposes. Here are the various possibilities about the jewellery bills shown by wife/in-laws to CAW, court etc: 1. The bills are real, and all the jewellery corresponding to those bills was actually given to wife at time of marriage. In that case, all those will be her stridhan. Very rare though since most people filing 406/498A etc are doing it not to get back anything, … [Read more...] about How to handle jewellery bills shown by wife in 406, 498A, stridhan
How to handle situation when wife files RCR or wants to come back?
Question: Guys how to handle situation when wife files an RCR ? To rejoin or not to rejoin, that is the question Yesterday in family court I saw a ‘play’ being enacted, husband and his lawyer on one side, and on the other side was the wife talking by herself. The wife was saying that she wants to come back -- the word being used was ‘rejoin’. The judge was trying to impress upon husband the necessity to explore all the possibilities including rejoining. Rejoin sounds like a very nice word, but if someone’s coming back can lead to rejoining with misery and life of daily frustrations, then that’s not a rejoining we would like to go for, isn’t it? To give a background of above case which can be similar to many people’s situations, the husband was first to file divorce, then brought … [Read more...] about How to handle situation when wife files RCR or wants to come back?
How to take action against police or magistrate for 498A arrest without following CrPC 41, 41A
Although most of the time I see that the people joining men’s forums are not getting arrested upon 498A FIR, there are a few who have been arrested. I think they are aware of the SC judgment against arbitrary arrest in 498A, but haven’t taken any action against police/magistrate after that. The Arnesh Kumar SC judgment is already blogged here which gives full judgment text of “no automatic arrests in 498A” judgment by Supreme Court on Jul 2, 2014. This post is meant for anyone who got arrested under 498A after Jul 2, 2014, and wants to do something about it. After the above judgment has come into force, based on my assessment from calls received, the number of arrests under 498A seem to have come down by 70-80% at least. We cannot be sure of the exact statistics … [Read more...] about How to take action against police or magistrate for 498A arrest without following CrPC 41, 41A
How to find and manage your lawyer in 498a, DV, CrPC 125, divorce, RCR cases
When married men are facing a persistent martial issue, at some point they decide that it is time to take advice from a lawyer. Note: If you don’t already have a legal case but are fearing one soon, read this post to find out your probability of getting a false case filed on you. Many people are under the impression that an advocate is a professional just like a doctor, and they trust that they will get the same good advice as they get from a doctor. Nothing could be more endangering to your future than believing in this doctor-lawyer stuff. But people have actually told me this even after NOT getting good service from their advocate. There are many more men who are searching for good, honest, professional lawyer to handle their cases since they are dissatisfied with their existing … [Read more...] about How to find and manage your lawyer in 498a, DV, CrPC 125, divorce, RCR cases