The social reality for any kind of marriage has changed in India, I think after year 2001 or so. (Maybe it coincided with large scale job creation for middle classes). Now, a woman who earns 1/3rd income of husband and gets housework done through maids etc paid for by husband; still thinks she is in some way superior to husband. This is the effect of financial freedom (read parasitic freedom) and easy social environment for women in large cities at least. Some women may actually be doing good work in managing both career and household, but the point I am making is not about contribution to family, but about respect for both spouses in marriage. For example these days in urban areas, if a woman earns 5K per month, hubby earns 15K per month. The power equation is not same as if woman … [Read more...] about Why marriage is a losing game for urban men?
Men Rights
Do men see societal structures oppressing them?
There is a nice article here on discussion about structures in society and how feminism is able to exploit discussion around societal structures well to benefit their cause. Why are men unable to look at some of societal structures as being harmful to men or putting too much burden on them? I guess the reason is men are trained to be self-reliant and in protector and provider mindset most of the time. So read about some of the societal expectations about men (some of them true more in West) as given in the article. In the field of gender issues, this means that the only way to combat misandry and the prevailing perception that men are a privileged group that willfully oppresses women, is to describe how cultural and societal structures keep men stuck in their own kind of … [Read more...] about Do men see societal structures oppressing them?
Husband can’t rape wife, but you can marry woman you raped!
No. I did not make that one up. Read the news below, and figure out for yourselves: http://www.dnaindia.com/india/report_husbands-can-t-get-away-with-marital-rape-government_1356512 Should a rape victim be allowed to marry the man who destroyed her self-esteem? “Yes,” feels chief justice of India KG Balakrishnan. “No,” indicates popular wisdom. As the world celebrates International Women’s Day on Monday, the government plans to protect women from all possible tormentors, including their husbands, by introducing “marital rape” as a separate provision under the proposed new law against rape and sexual assault. I could say as in the IDEA advertisement -- “kya idea hai sirji”, except in this case it is hardly funny. If one thinks about the 2 diametrically opposite views expressed … [Read more...] about Husband can’t rape wife, but you can marry woman you raped!
70% of all BJP MPs are opposed to Women Reservation Bill
http://www.indianexpress.com/news/BJP-chief-whip-spills-it-out--70--of-MPs-oppose-Women-s-Bill/589444 “At least seventy per cent of MPs are protesting against the women’s reservation Bill and the way the party supported the Bill despite marshals being used in Rajya Sabha. Top leaders of the party have assured that grievances of the MPs will be taken into account,” Bais told The Indian Express, adding that Murli Manohar Joshi and Yashwant Sinha had already held the first round of discussions. I would not be too surprised at such a statistic. After all, the resentment against 33% women’s reservation has been suppressed only because of overall media championing and political-correctness of the ‘cause’ of women empowerment. No body of any importance wants to be seen voicing opinion … [Read more...] about 70% of all BJP MPs are opposed to Women Reservation Bill
When men forgive women
This 19 Feb news of 2 Iranian women assaulting police officers in Bangalore was was covered in all Bangalore papers. http://www.bangaloremirror.com/article/1/2010021920100219075405340960290be/iMaafii-%E2%80%98I-forgive-them%E2%80%99.html What is interesting is one of the assaulted cops saying he has forgiven the women. Nothing wrong in that per se, after all this is reputedly the country of Mahatma Gandhi and Ahimsa parmo dharma. Let us get a glimpse of the events: She allegedly broke open the side box of Rao’s patrol bike and took back the insurance documents her friend had handed him. Fazile allegedly tried to drive away in the car. Rao closed the barricade. Police say she then assaulted Rao all over his body and kicked his private parts. She also bit him on his hand and … [Read more...] about When men forgive women