Purpose of Q&A telegram group
This forum is primarily meant for asking questions related to how to deal with Legal Terrorism done by some wives in matrimonial cases, and any other men’s rights issues.
Another purpose is to share useful judgments with other members.
Also success stories.
Group name / identity / privacy guidelines
What kind of names are allowed in QA Group?
Name of the person is what is visible to others in group chat (without looking at person’s profile details).
People with single character name like S T V should change it to some full word(s) name, or two letters in capitals only like S T , H K etc. No digits, no dots, or other punctuation marks or distracting / confusing emojis in name. Minimum two letters (A-Z only with blank in between), or 1 word 1 letter, or 2 words is mandatory. It should signify a human name, not something else or nonsensical word.
Right examples: S V, Suresh V, V Rajesh, V R, Ashish Singh
Wrong examples: s v (make caps), stk, Typing…, Ashwini ., dul, V, K, 23012 54991, SJ, abhi, Jibu, p, ****, (PK), X, 77498 Ashish, TRJ, Xonin ., sharat ~, gg, Tracker b6, Mumbai Local, Ycodename47, Ibru, A2, Up, Aroo00n . Singh, SN S, baku, .Chaddha, SMR,
The chosen name need not be real name but whatever it is stick to it in future.
This applies to existing group members also.
Group posting guidelines
Serious discussions only
No Trolling should be done in the group. We want to maintain a cordial and peaceful environment.
Both people who post questions and those who reply should take responsiblity to give detail upfront, rather than going into chat mode with long thread.
Also no hi/hello, welcome, forwards, jokes. For having fun and plain chatting, there are other avenues.
No sharing of mainstream media news stories. Only legal news containing full judgment links/ PDFs) is permitted.
One can also share any useful judgment PDF by itself provided it’s accompanied with brief note about the judgment.
I will permanently remove/block such people who are wasting people’s time or attention
Lawyer search is not purpose of this group.
I will explain why that approach fails in a video sometime. Also refer to "How to find and manage your lawyer" in MRI Articles sheet
Can we ask divorce related questions in this group?
Divorce guidance is not given as part of social work. This is explained on the website already.
From now I will ban user asking purely divorce related question.
What is a purely divorce related question?
If divorce is one of the cases filed by wife or by you and it’s part of the overall context and the question is not about getting divorce or about the divorce trial, then the question can be allowed.
But if the question is only about husband’s divorce case or how to get divorce, then DO NOT post it here, post it in Divorce group created separately. When in doubt, better to post question in divorce group.
Maintenance related questions even if part of divorce case are always allowed.
Joining Link for Divorce group: https://t.me/+pIg__ZP7usBkMTI1
What all can be posted in QA Group?
Don’t ask question which can be done via google
In case google didn’t give any answers, then post your own research and then the doubt
No fishing enquiries
Fishing enquiry is when a person asks some question only with intention to gather some tidbit of information (like catching a fish), with no intention to work towards a solution to his overall problem. Most likely they are doing this fishing enquiries in multiple groups hoping to get something quickly without giving much info about own problem or thinking.
Don’t ask again if your question got no reply or partial reply
Basically there is no entitlement to get a reply from group members. Partial replies are almost always due to partial info in question so strongly suggest to use the format given here: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1OWefgOH3FYL5Q-g231ZF9pMCpNXTivLEJVAqKS4044c/edit#gid=1249781226
Guidelines on posting questions
Don’t demand answer particular members or within particular time
Question should NOT be tagged to specific person(s) (i.e. using @userid).
No addressing question to "Seniors/Experts" etc. The group doesn’t want to create Mai-Baap and dependence mindset in members. We want everyone to be able to learn and become independent at a basic level. Also, even newer members may be able to provide good inputs on a particular topic so no need to restrict question to few supposed experts.
Full case strategy questions are generally discouraged
Full case related questions are not easy to be discussed in short messages format of telegram.
People should read up on articles and books (see below) to gain overall perspective and create strategy. The questions should be to get solutions for parts of overall strategy and any doubts about legal procedures, practices etc.
Give complete details required
People should give full info in the question itself with points. It’s difficult to reply when the question is broken into a multiple so it becomes like a chat (I will downvote such questions). If multiple violations, the person will be removed and banned.
Suggest everyone to use the format given here, (Refer to various prescribed MANDATORY formats in light blue colour depending on type of question):
To make own copy click on USE TEMPLATE button on top right after login: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1OWefgOH3FYL5Q-g231ZF9pMCpNXTivLEJVAqKS4044c/template/preview
How to invite others to join QA Group?
To keep out spammers, the group can be joined through Invite link only.
If anyone wants to share invite link of the group, here it is: https://t.me/+Z21GkbypYAVmMTg1
Above link requires admin approval, too.
Restrictions, temporary / permanent ban
What does thumbs down by Admin mean?
From now on, I will use thumbs down on messages if I think the person is:
1) Asking series of questions giving fresh and additional info each time rather than having put most of those points in first question itself
2) Repeated questions every now and then when they have been answered before
3) Tagging particular group members for seeking answers or quick attention
4) Message subtracts from value of group to members. This is broad area so will give specific examples in future as and when applicable
Thumbs down on message means you should rethink and take a break before posting again
Policy in Q&A and Divorce Group
Many members are part of both Q&A group and Divorce group.
What I see is that many of non-serious members violate guidelines, thinking that even if they get removed from one group, they can continue to be there in the other group and be able to ask their question there.
So that leads to two policy changes.
Policy change in Divorce Group:
So the new policy is that Divorce group will be strictly monitored to allow only (or mainly) divorce related questions. That was not being strictly followed so far so members were able to ask all kinds of maintenance, 498A kind of questions in Divorce group also and getting replies there. If people have both Divorce and 498A/ DV/ CrPC 125/ Maintenance types of questions, then it’s their own responsibility to ask the question in applicable group giving all relevant details.
Policy change in both groups:
Those who do serious level violation of group guideline in either this Q&A group or in Divorce group, will be banned from both the groups. This is also based on the observation that a person who violates guideline in one group ends up doing same in another group, so might as well reduce workload of admin and reduce disruptive / cluttering messages and do the removal in one go.
How to build basic knowledge before posting questions in group?
Created this searchable page, for sharing group guidelines, answering basic legal and procedural questions, and referring to important/pinned messages/notes shared in Men Rights India Q&A telegram group.
This page can be shared with anyone facing men’s rights issues.
Ready links to important articles and books
Below is some of the standard useful info which I share with everyone:
You can read this article first. For 90% of husbands, their situation fits into the mentioned points:
- Read below a few of the important articles on MRI site relevant to your own situation. It is good to spend at least 1 hour daily for few weeks if your knowledge of legal system is not much.
- For FREE guidance from our community, then you can join either join Facebook or WhatsApp groups. The link below explains all steps on how to join. DO NOT contact me to add to any of these groups since I can’t – follow all the steps carefully else request may not be approved or may get delayed:
- Following two Free Books (PDF) are available for download at below links:
i). Surviving the Legal Jungle eBook (PDF):
ii). Child Custody Guardianship and Visitation for Fathers eBook (PDF format):
- You can read the following book if you want to Fight and Reduce Maintenance under CrPC 125 and DV Act. Fighting interim maintenance is more important and urgent than even 498A/406 etc:
- Following book can be referred to by husbands regarding divorce:
Note: already mentioned on website that we don’t provide guidance on divorce as per MRI policy, still people keep asking, so if you wish to get paid guidance on divorce, you can contact me via https://man2man.in
- To get FREE updates on latest judgments, law, govt policies, and other issues related to men’s rights, you can join our Telegram channel https://t.me/MenRightsIndia
MRI Articles sheet
List of all articles on menrightsindia.net, with tags and recommendation levels and order given.
Create own copy (click on USE TEMPLATE button on top right after google account login): https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1OWefgOH3FYL5Q-g231ZF9pMCpNXTivLEJVAqKS4044c/template/preview