A recent email received from the Contact form from this website reads as follows: Hi Need support as looking for divorce after 9 yrs marriage. Regards<name deleted> Another email was received last month with subject mentioning “Need help regarding Divorce, DV, and XYZ” Hello there, I filed divorce case in Mth 20xx, since that time I have been fighting. I am paying Rs xy- per month to my wife as a maintenance. I don't think that I will get divorce for next of couple of years too. I am of 3X now. What to do?Secondly, Since 20xx, I have been fighting DV case …<few more details removed> Please suggest what to do. Regards,<name deleted> Another email received a few weeks back has the single word Divorce as the subject of email. followed by some details of the problem in … [Read more...] about I want divorce from wife, please help me!!!
Sailing two boats – how pretenders end up making fools of themselves
There's a saying: you can't sail in two boats at the same time. But I see even in men rights groups (like our Facebook group) -- from deciphering some of the questions and comments -- that people want to sail in two boats at the same time: Boat 1/Survival-Slave: Possibility of living together (or more correctly under the same roof) with a manipulative, narcissistic, toxic female who calls herself your wife. This inspite of she abusing you/mother/father, giving suicide threats etc. This is the Survival Boat, other synonyms being Zombie, Slave, Pet-Dog-of-Wife-In-Laws Boat. Boat 2/Dignity-Self-Respect: Some unavoidable pain and uncertainty in short term (2 years is short term), but idea of saving one's sanity and self-respect, and not to say the least: "protect my parents"... the often … [Read more...] about Sailing two boats – how pretenders end up making fools of themselves
Comments on Draft Trafficking of Persons (Prevention, Protection and Rehabilitation) Bill, 2016
Following are my comments on the Draft Trafficking of Persons (Prevention, Protection and Rehabilitation) Bill, 2016: 24. Presumption of certain offences Where a person is prosecuted for committing or abetting or attempting to commit any offence under section 16 and 17 of this Act or offences under section 370-373 of Indian Penal Code, 1860, the Special Court shall presume that such person has committed the offence, unless the contrary is proved. If by the word prosecution it is meant about start of trial after filing of charge sheet by police, then above section of the draft bill adds to the sweeping powers given to state/police/prosecutors to apprehend someone based on some given report, and then that person will have not only the problem of arranging bail for this non-bailable offence, … [Read more...] about Comments on Draft Trafficking of Persons (Prevention, Protection and Rehabilitation) Bill, 2016
Critique and comments on Draft National Policy for Women, 2016
Following are my comments on Draft National Policy for Women, 2016: 1.6 Several paradoxical trends have been observed in the past few years. The growing acknowledgement of gender rights and equality is juxtaposed against increase in reporting of various forms of violence against women such as rape, trafficking, dowry etc.; Above conclusion is given without any statistical data, to demonstrate if increase in rape, dowry etc are much higher than population growth. 1.8 The current status of women with respect to human development parameters, legal rights for women to life and freedom from violence, economic and social discrimination and their rights to equality and equity shows that a lot still remains to be done. It is necessary therefore, to reinforce the rights-based approach for … [Read more...] about Critique and comments on Draft National Policy for Women, 2016
Presumptions in law in crimes against women and matrimonial law
Most of the criminal law is based on what society perceives as common sense standards of acceptable or non-acceptable behaviour in a given situation, where one’s actions can cause harm to others for no justifiable reason. For example, murder is a crime in all cultures and societies, because no one wants to risk getting deprived of his/her life at little or no notice; and society has agreed that taking away someone’s life has to have very good reasons for doing it. Same reasoning would apply to lesser crimes like theft -- that one cannot deprive another person of property or money by theft/cunning/deceit etc. Even a thief after having committed a theft and not being discovered, wants the protection of law so that his/her (see, we are gender neutral ) ‘goods’ cannot be … [Read more...] about Presumptions in law in crimes against women and matrimonial law
How to safeguard from false cases by wife–Part 1
“How should I safeguard myself and my parents from false cases?” – is one of the most common question raised by men -- after having given a brief or not so brief write-up of their story of abuse/threats/false allegations/insults/humiliation at the hands of wife. In many of these instances, the husband and family are already facing multiple cases filed against them, so the question about how-to-safeguard seems to be after the fact. Maybe many people are scared and expecting the skies to fall down as the cases progress forward, so whatever may be the individual feelings, the question about how-to-safeguard still remains there, waiting to be asked, and probably any answer will not be able to satisfy them fully. The intention behind their question is not merely to find out about how to … [Read more...] about How to safeguard from false cases by wife–Part 1