Friends: do you feel you have been through following situations or likely to go through them in near future?
1. Your wife has left the house without any reason or communication, and now her parents or someone else is doing whisper campaign against you?
2. You have tried to call your wife back many times trying to reason with her, her parents; but they always suggest that you follow some conditions, rather than even discuss what’s the real issue.
Worry not, for now we present after years of studying these situations the highly (un)definite guide to assessing your false cases and marriage breakup score. Think about it this way: sometimes the bad news can be the good news if delivered early enough. For example, we all know how dangerous is a disease like cancer. Now if you are told that you have cancer in early stage, but it’s only a localized tumour and can be removed by undergoing an operation, and a full recovery is guaranteed; is that a good news or bad news? I would say it’s good news. Of course I can hear the argument by some wise guy: “how to prevent the cancer in the first place?”. Hey wise guy! We will surely solve all the world problems including global warming and world peace in due course of time, but let’s just stick to the reality of what’s happening in our lives RIGHT NOW! If we live for another day, many things are possible – including how to prevent the cancer.
So here is the self-assessment questionnaire. Add the points given after the statement if that statement applies to your situation as of now. At the end of survey, total up your score and match it against the score slabs to assess the probability of false cases and marriage breakup.
1. Wife has threatened to commit suicide 2 times (+30).
2. Wife has threatened to commit suicide 3 or more times (+70).
3. Wife left the house without any communication or giving any reason, and have stopped communication. In fact, they are now blaming or trying to find some faults with you. (+20)
4. Wife stayed away from you for more than 6 months within first year of marriage (not because of work related travel or other practical/genuine reasons). (+50)
5. Wife (but not in-laws) suggested that you should stay away or take a separate house from parents, and nothing like this was hinted before marriage. (+10)
6. In-laws (but not wife) suggested that you should stay away or take a separate house from parents, and nothing like this was hinted before marriage. (+30)
7. Both wife and in-laws suggested that you should stay away or take a separate house from parents, and nothing like this was hinted before marriage. (+30)
8. Your father-in-law says that you should keep your wife/his daughter happy and some vague statements which are unwarranted and out of the blue. The hint being given is that she is not happy. (+20)
9. Your wife/in-laws suggest that you should take a house on rent close to her parents’ house. There is no practical need or justification behind it however. (+50).
10. If you come a bit late from work, wife tries to start an unnecessary argument or tells her parents or someone else that you might be having an affair. (+20).
11. You come to know of an issue raised by your wife not from her, but through her parents. (add +10 for each issue).
12. Your father in law threatens you about how you may face trouble from police, from women’s NGO, legal cases etc. (+90).
13. In combination with one or more of above happening over a period of time, your wife actually tried to commit suicide, but was saved because of medical intervention etc (+120).
Total Score:
1. 100 or more. False cases, marriage Breakup (FCMB) guaranteed.
2. 60-100. High probability of FCMB.
3. 30-60. Wait and hope may work, but not if the in-laws are a feminist/matriarchal family. Get careful while it’s possibly tumour stage.
4. 10- 30. If in-laws’ family is not a feminist/matriarchal setup, things might sort out.
5. 0. Congratulations. Not only you have a relatively problem free married life, but you have sufficient leisure to read things of no consequence to you personally 
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Dear Sir,
You have done a great work by providing list where one can check probability of false marriage. Can you mention checklist of things before marriage.
It is planned but then it is a far greater effort – but more importantly there could be lot of backlash in society, since many people (esp older gen and the married folks without serious issues) won’t like the bad news which is in front of their eyes but they refuse to acknowledge.
Hi, i have been married for almost 15 years i have a 11 year old son, me and my wife stay in another city but whenever went to my parent’s house always insisted to stay in her mother’s house and argued many times.
recent incident couple of months back my parents came to visit us here, she behaved ok in front of me but behaved badly when i was away. When my parents went back within 8 days my father was admitted due to brain hemorrhage and he passed away my mother says he was not at all happy with her behavior and was constantly thinking about it.
Even during when my father was admitted my wife made fuss with everyone. When i confronted she threatened to do suicide.
I have now decided to confront with my in-laws with this. i also feel that my MIL is the one who has created this issue. I want to know if i have to get away with it what evidence i need to collect.
I am not sure what confrontation you will do now after 15 years of marriage. Evidence collection is common sense, keep electronic eyes and ears (video/audio) open and in recording mode as needed, without raising suspicion of course.
I am totally against Law on Women to Protect Rights of Hindu Marriage Act in India.
This Law is against Humanity and
Misuse Knowingly by Married greedy Women and his greedy non sense Family members Mother, Father,Brother and sister against her Husband in Divorce Cases.
Many No. Of bad greedy women in India Misuse the Rights for Protection of Women Knowingly consciously to target Property and Huge Money of Husband and destroy peaceful environment of Father in law and Mother in Law.
This Law makes the wrong impression in the mind of society that Men is bad,big cheater for women and Women is innocent.
But by this Dictatorship Law Innocent Men treated as Accused by Society.
But bad greedy Women always tell lies. And false crying like a crocodile to do fraud and divert the society to show that she is helpless , suffer pain ,innocent, good.
But Bad greedy Women She is actually a Big Criminal as Terrorist.
THIS Law only Wife protection in divorce give more rights to women.
Misuse by Greedy Women and his greedy family members, Misuse by corrupt Police Authorities, Courts and Misuse by corrupt Women Cell.
BUT WHY Hindu Married laws was not made and give Rights for the Protection of Husband.More than Wife.
If any innocent, good Husband get Punished by this Women Rights marriage protection laws.
I Want Death sentence of all Married fraud Greedy Women’s who makes fraud cases of divorce against her Husband.
And also want dismiss the Authorities like Police,Court Judges , Women Cell for life and also want punishment for life imprisonment.
Why Women not Hanged till death in India if She involved in heinous Crime like Mass killing.Murder etc.
In India Foolish Society treat Women as Kanya or Devi.
Even Law makers such a big Accused who thinks Women is innocent or weak in society than Men.
By Law makers, Law Framers don’t have any common sense.
That Poor Girl Family has big dream to target and cheat his Married Girl Husband.
To captured wealth and Property of Husband or Men and Parents in law.
I Want Justice in Favour of Men Rights for Protection of Husband married life.
Why Fraud Married laws on Women target Property share of Husband Family.
Why married Women property and his family members property not get by his Husband.
I want change this Unconstitutional Dictatorship Law for Protection of Women married life in divorce cases.
I want Amendment.
I said every Men don’t Marry with any girl
in India if Law on Husband Rights Protection not made.
I only say follow Good Indian Law.
But dont Follow bad Indian Law.
Hi , please help me out with this situation , i got married 21/11/2013 , and the girl is my cast i mean far relative , before the weeding she and her elder sister use to come home and talk to my presents to show they are good and all which we dint know , but when she is talk to me she always wanted me to stay separate house after the marriage and i was not happy about it same thing i spoke to her sister and her husband to they convinced my parents that she dint mean that way . after the weeding she was with me for only 2 months in that 2 months she use to go the work come back and been the room never spoke to my family member and my parents was upset and i spoke to her and asked her to start mingling with everyone she said i dont have to and i will not , later she started coming late and early morning she use yo go after 2 month my dad and mom convinced me to change the house which was not ready of it but i agreed i have seen the house and we have changed in the mean time i lost my JOB as i working as tech support later changing the house after a week she started fighting that i wont cook or clean the house and not helping her to wash the cloths then i started do that also , in the mean time i was searching for the job as i was looking in BPO i use to get the offer only for the night shift only she was not happy about it and she said as i have good knowledge let open some office which you can run the business i informed same thing to my dad he said we are broken and its been only 3 month of your weeding and my parents as spend 10lakhs for the weeding so they could not help to start the new business , she said i will arrange she gave me 3 lakhs of cash and i started the business which went loss , with 2 month i i lost the money of 3 lakhs on computer and salary and the maintenance which is my big mistake , once i go home she use to killing me with her words if i ask y are you talking like she as once conman answer ( I DINT MEAN THAT and she use tell this also YOUR UNDERSTANDING LEVEL IS NOT GOOD ) i got pissed of (1) first point i never wanted to leave my parents as i am the only son (2) i was feeling die every moment with 20 days of house change her sister and her husband and father along with mother came and started staying with us i never stopped i always think that they are my parents to , i stooped going to new house and my partents house i stayed in office for more then month without proper sleep and food , then i thought i am the cause for the trouble because if i tell all the to my parents they use to feel that they have done the mistake my chossing that girl , and from her end its was totally different , she never allow me to go to my house to see my mom and dad if i get a call also she use to walk out ,
i was dead from inside at the same time i got job in Delhi i thought this will be the right time i went to Delhi after way from her for complete year i dint get any call from her or any information i thought that was she needed from me once after she called and asked for money which she as lend me to open the office i took the time to return it
in the mean time my dad spoke to elder sister and asked her to send my wife to home so that even i can join and start new life her sister replied to my dad if your son is not there at home should my sister sleep with you
when i came to know that i had bad fight then i told her i need divorce , she said i will see how will you take divorce i will die but i wont give the divorce , in 2016 jan, she want to lawyer and called us for the divorce , as i was in Delhi my dad went she showed some photos and said your son as married to some other girl but that was not true she was one of my friend and we have taken the picture together ,
infornt of lawyer she said she is ready to give the divorce on condition
1 , i need to help her with my document to process her visa
2. she need the money
3.and some more point which will help her to AUS, PR
i agreed and started giving all the document to the lawyer as the time frame given but she never use to response to the call to me or to the lawyer ,
later lawyer told not give her any kind of document as she is planing for something else
in the mean time we have applied for mutual divorce .
after 2 month she gave a complete at police station and case was 498a and my parents and my sister name was also give , i spoke to the same lawyer and asked for sujjection he said to apply for the bail which we did later she and her relatives came to compromise and told us to settle down thing y said we are always ready for that ,
there demend was 10lakhs in cash to give the divorce and time given is only 2 moths we agreed for it and we arranged the money with in the time frame and to apply the divorce she need some new lawyer , we did that also the date was give in the month of oct 2016 , they where lost after that till july 2017 . as divorce was on the process the notice was send and court asked to give the add in news paper so that she can attend the court , but no reply as there was no repose my lawyer help me to get me the divorce , now again she is hyd and given the same complete as 498 which i am staying in Bangalore ,
what as to be done please help
i have missied some point here is i got married to another girl in 2015 December
which she as got the photo of it and never complaint on the same
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My wife has been threatening me often that she will commit suicide, she will leave the house etc. Every second day she will pack her bag/ suitcase and show as if she is leaving the house, though she has never done it actually.she is using these tactics to separate me from my family. She has used all kinds of abuses and filthy language for me and my family.
I want to get divorced on grounds of cruelty but know that she wont agree for divorce. the day I file for divorce, she will retaliate. Pl advise what to do..
No advice given on divorce. If you have good evidence to prove cruelty, you can file and see how it goes.
Dear Videv,
My name is Sanjay and I am also fighting against false cases since last 5 years. I stay in Mumbai and had to come from Mumbai to himachal (sundernagar) on every hearing. My wife had filed 3 case 1)divorce 2) Maintenance 3)Dv but suddenly on 6th July she withdrew DV case when the case was on the stage of evidence. Now divorce and maintenance is pending which she will not withdraw
Sir plz let me know how I can join your group
>>Sir plz let me know how I can join your group
No one’s blessings are needed, except following the instructions and guidelines:
menrightsindia.net/2015/01/counselling-discussion-of-personal-cases-on-whatsapp.html
Hi
I have married recently, 4-5 months back. My wife was having severe headache since the first week of marriage. When asked about that, she and her parents always says that “Nothing Series, happens sometimes.” After TWO months of marriage we started living together at different city, where I am working. Since the first week itself, she started complaining server headache and unconsciousness without any reason and once headache starts, she doesn’t get up OR do anything for at least one day. She complains about loud noise for the headache, but most of the time it stats without any reason or if I don’t agree with her on something or told her to do something correctly (even very basic household things) or if I caught her when she is lying.When asked about the same with her parents they simply denied any previous disease or symptoms.I consulted to doctor for headache and unconsciousness (sudden unconsciousness and on every 5 or 10 mins), after 1+ months of treatment disease got worse and she started to suffer from headache at least two days a week.She started to behave very aggressive and often says that “I don’t remember what I say or do when I am angry”. She also started to leave the house during argument and later says sorry for that. Doctor asked to consult physiatrist. I have to ask the neighbour to look after her when I am in the office for many weeks, but she doesn’t inform anything about that to my parents and her parents never visit or ask me about the disease or anything related to that. She was even hospitalised and then also she was not trying to help and after Doctor said see is FINE, she was still doing DRAMA for unconsciousness etc.Her parent always says to doctor that pain and rest of the issues start only after marriage, and don’t inform anything to us about the kind of medication she is under. We requested them for help so that poprer medication can be provided but they are not helping at all. Wife is currently refusing to go to see the doctor and she is always tired, doesn’t do anything, under medication sleeps for atleast for 15-16 hrs per day. During her hospitalization her parents asked doctor to releas her without any kind of proper test and consultation.She is currently with my parents and they are taking care of her. We are trying to find the disease but her parent is always hiding and she is also not helping.Not filled case yet, but any suggestion here about the options I have?
>>but any suggestion here about the options I have?
if you feel there is serious marriage fraud about not disclosing pre-existing disease (may sound like insurance policy terms) you can file for annulment, else there is no option. You may read my divorce book for details, since we can’t help anymore with divorce etc issues else lot of men will approach MRAs for “what are my options” for all kinds of issues in marriage.
Excellent article VD…Kudos
There may be some women who are wrong avoiding them and focusing on many more right women who suffer hell because of these MEN having mentality which has been developed due to male dominated society……
Helllooooooooo we are in INDIA.. Women are still treated like dirt.. This has happened because these extra proud INDIAN MEN think they are pati’s “”””SWAMI””””.. HELLOOOOO WAKE UP GUYS.. have some amout of manliness and take responsibility once you marry…. Treat your inlaws with respect ans treat your wives with respect.. Try to approach her if she is not with you by being a man and going to her house holding her hand and telling your inlaws that you have married her and you will take full responsibility of her….BE A MAN…. Go and bring her back right away.. I’v seen many of my friends and relatives suffer both husband and women the reason is our lack of understanding because of our male dominated society thoughts.. Please build a better INDIA.. Help her be a better individual in life don’t kill her dreams or treat her badly like dirt.. BE A REAL MAN.. MAY GOD GIVE YOU ALL GOOD THOUGHTS..
Helloooooo… we are in India, with 2 lakh arrests under 498A every year, and 7% conviction rate only.
About Male dominated society: Did any woman in your family had to die for sake of protecting the country, family etc? It’s always job of men in so called male dominated society.
About “how to Be a man”, you can try that elsewhere 🙂 Most people men to this site are either too numb to appreciate that phrase anymore, or have stopped falling for such guilt-traps.
Clever statements don’t work when it comes to marrying a girl using her and leaving her for malafide reasons.. Regarding fake cases well there are many fake divorce allegations men put too you have any answer for that.. Please let us be focused on repairing rather than damaging further.. We are in india and divorce cases rate is going on rising.. Men marry and forget their responsibility. Can you focus more on making homes than breaking and encouraging men to forget their responsibilities.. It would be very wrong if you support men forgetting reponsibilities.. As for as male dominated society well can you deny you uproot a girl and implant her at your house now a days families have one or two children do you think once also what about those parents having girl child only.. Please im sure you can do a better job than this.. May god give all men good thoughts..
>>Regarding fake cases well there are many fake divorce allegations men put too you have any answer for tha
Indian women file 85% of divorces. Maybe you could take some initiative in educating the sisterhood instead of commenting on our posts here.
http://archive.tehelka.com/story_main43.asp?filename=hub311009the_rearranged.asp
ENJOY THE TRUTH! In any case, stop commenting further.
I dont understand why thse so called male chauvenists aka men’s rights activists keep creating panic in thee society. They are not able to tolerate shift of power and also the repercussions they need to face when they decide to use and throw women in the name of marriage. Yes sir, they dont understand the plight of parents having only girl children and nobody to take care of them in their old age but when her parents are dying, the husband hits her to take care of his parents and these people are nothing but furious that laws show soft corner on women and they are not able to easily use and throw women.
That said, because of these groups, many men think that even if their wife files a complaint, they can be happy as now these people are there to portray all cases as false cases using manipulated statistics. Many men dont apply for divorce and torture the wife so that she will apply for divorce on her own so that he need not pay alimony. Also men these days dont demand dowry in a staright forward manner, they intimidate and do mental torture which cant be proved directly as wife cannot roam with a secret camera 24/7 and record each and every thing happening inside 4 walls.
My husband hit me and I got medical reports, neighbours came to save me. I have voice records proving that he agreed that he hit me. When I was about to record him hitting me , he threw away my phone and hit me. SO I was not able to record but in women’s cell he agreed that he used physical violence to some extent but later he sought some men’s organization’s advice and they typically told him to not accept that he hit me anymore and deny it, also he can create sympathy telling he is worried about his parents’ safety etc etc and society will believe him as these people have created a false panic scenario already.
I know this because I took his memory card from his phone while he was sleeping and have all his call records and voice records in his phone with who ever he talked to. I have pics of him kissing girls in his memory card. So his only defence was “HOw can u take my memory card.. its mine and u stole it” . Still didnt file a case on him . waiting for him to apply for divorce. He will sure apply for divorce as he said I was cruel on him by stealing his memory card and that is cruelty against him and I will contest it. He says I ask him questions as to who are those girls in those pics that u are kissing? He says asking questions make is harassing him mentally. This is how these people act. They belong to the dominant section of society and they want to suppress the downtrodden women forever so that they can remain for ever in the power game.
I request all women to record everything happening at home. Please be vigilant once u sense ur husband started losing interest in u as men are genetically tuned to be with hunter mentality. Please start video and audio recording what ever happens between u and ur husband/in-laws. Remember that u are their place, so they can easily buy witnesses against u but u cant.
Statistics show there are drastically higher number of women who dont remarry after divorce but men remarry soon after divorce. This is just a power game that mothers of sons and sons play together to keep the wife under them always.
Here men’s rights activists advise husbands to fake it in front of women’s cell saying that they want to save marriage but having intention of divorcing her as soon as possible. Women being emotional beings expect too much from their husbands emotionally. They think husband should love them as they show in movies/serials and be righteous and be there for her in hard times. But face the hard reality, men and their family are selfish. That is how our Indian society is, they bring up their son with the mentality that they will gain out of him and they have power automatically of having given birth to male child. Your mother-in-law can be aggressive and authoritative but u and ur mother cant be in the eyes of the male chauvinists and other sums of this society. Having given birth to a male child, a women can be authoritative on her husband but cant tolerate daughter-in-law gaining son’s attention.
All these men’s rights activists want is to be in the throne of the power game and women to be helpless as always. They dont want families to unite , they dont want men to come down from their ego and ask sorry to their wives and lead a happy life. All they want is the wives to either suffer silently and the moment she says enough is enough, they want to suppress the women by forming these private groups so that their cry gets feebler.
Hey… maybe you have plenty of time at hands reading a post not meant for women at all, and then giving a long cry-woman-cry kind of story.
We are proudly helping men gain confidence and take the fight to unscrupulous wife’s camp. Ultimately, in courts, it’s evidence that matters, and with tons of laws protecting women and none there to protect men, if some women still keep crying about how unfair things are for women, then they need to get their heads checked. If your main dream and strategy in life was to bag a man and then milk him for maintenance or get fat alimony with divorce, then that’s a rather unwise and risky strategy, and the MRAs will continue to make sure that it becomes more and more unwise and riskier for such women.
LoL.. May be this women (Ruhi) didn’t read the initial article.. First of all, this is not a forum to teach any men or women how they should treate their partners. Second, this is a forum for men who have been ditched, cheated, betrayed, etc. by some greedy women (their so called wives) and her parents (their so called in-law). Obviously you haven’t been through such situation and seems you would have no remorse if your sister in law does something with your brother and drag your old parents including you and your husband to CAW, courts etc. for the sake of money. The point is, it’s very easy to give “Parvachan” to others. Try to put yourself in their shoes. This could happen to you too. Try not to do any such “Satsang” again. It may hurt others. No men wants to destroy their married life. But whenever women starts there’s no point of holding that dull marriage back.
Dear sir,
I am arti singha
This a case of my own brothers, her wife sended a notice to my home….that we are very cruel personality and claim a 10 lacs rupees as a her expenses.my brother is very stressed about this and he want her come back but she is not.even she blaming me to this metter…that I am helping to my brother to touchring her.plzz suggest me ..wht I do now the date is 21 dec…we are going to court for the discussion kindly tell me. What we do now…
Courts are not meant for discussion, maybe you mean mediation.
Deny all allegations, and tell them that she is dragging everyone in the allegations only to scare and extort money. If you get scared and pay up, then after that no one can help you.
Your brother can join our groups.
Hello Sir, I am Saradindu Mukherjee from West Bengal, aged about 31 years. Definitely I would be going to be another Indian husband to file divorce suit on wife without any preparation, if I would not have read your book and have found out this site for men’s welfare. You have really opened my eyes and saved my life from sure danger.
It is now clear to me that my wife belongs to a feminist family. During last 8 months of my married life, I am having a ‘keeping away’ category of wife. She has not yet allowed me to establish any kind of physical relation. From the very beginning she was not interested to stay at our house and stayed for only 4 days before leaving for her parent’s house. For many occasions, she insisted me to relocate at her parents’ house. During her stay at my home, I physically assaulted one of my relative in front of my wife. With reference to this incident, my wife refuses to come back to our home stating that I am so cruel that I might have killed her. I only expressed my verbal disappointment regarding her refusal in having physical relation with me. Beside this, there have been no disputes between me and my wife. In spite of approaching for many times, she has refused to resume relation with me or to come to our home. Neither she is ready to communicate anything to sort out this issue. After putting continuous pressure, she has intimated her decision for mutual consent divorce on the grounds that I am very much rough and misbehaving and unworthy of living together. Though verbally agreed, she is not ready to file mutual consent divorce petition right now and taken time to think about it. She has already made mention of the cash money and furniture etc, that I was given by her father at time of marriage. I guess the situation is becoming more complicated than seemed earlier. Although it is fact that none of us have yet filed any suit.
Under such situation, I have started to maintain written record of events, date wise, as advised at your book “Guide for Men on Divorce Cruelty Desertion Annulment” and to collect all possible evidences that may shade good light on me. Please suggest me, beside these, how should I get prepared for my future fight against my wife and her family.
So far I have realized, my wife has got married just to achieve the status of a married woman. If she wants to spoil my time and life and don’t file any suit on me and keep staying at her parents’ house, what should I do then?
Already emailed you suggesting to join the groups, why post comment like a$$holes all over the site once your question has already been replied to?
My score is 240. Its been a nightmare of an experience for me. Its difficult for me to trust any woman now.
my score is 350…wish there could be a list to check before marriage too n i was aware such things can happen after marriage…never even dreamed of this or of breaking my marriage but now had to file a divorce from the 498a wife
-a victim of 498a,377,etc
I plan to make a list for things to check for before marriage, but I am not sure how many will read it. Most parents and relatives of the bridegroom are quite confident of their own judgment in choosing a bride, and they are shocked later on how things turned out; and even then they keep hoping until serious criminal cases get filed. Also older people think they have seen life and based on that alone will usually reject advice from younger generation. Since people’s judgment in choosing marriage partner is proven so drastically wrong, that’s the main reason I advise not to rush into second marriage even if one gets divorce somehow.
IPC 377 is newly added weapon being used by woman’s party since blind arrests under 498a arrests have been reduced a lot.
Filing divorce is very different from getting one. Most likely your advocate is steering you towards lumpsum settlement route.
498 a is least an act rather than being a illegal trade which blossomed legally under roots of indian constitution, bosses are women extracting up to maximum amount of money out of it in advantage of being born a woman, nothing goes on as written by supreme court of India, no investigation is done either by women cell or by police, they just say to just compromise with your in-laws at any cost they demand otherwise face the fate, a funny kind of a serious drama is played just to entertain estranged wives and their relatives, it seems police has no job except to entertain them. Usually these type of crimes are done within four walls and it is very hard to know who is speaking the truth but i was having full proves of my innocence along with her messages saved in my mobile of corresponding dates proving her presence in her parental house which were given by her of thrown out of my house by me after beating and audio call recording in which she clearly says ” i don’t want to live in your lifestyle and as i had already told you clearly that if you will not come to attend the marriage function i will head for divorce , you hadn’t cared about me as i was moving in markets with jewellery bag and it was also clear in conversation that she is now having all jewellery along with watch, chain and ring of mine ” the jewellery which she is allegedly demanding in the police complaint but all in vain and i was arrested,The ugly truth really nowadays are that wives and their relatives use laws, which were made for protection of women, as their weapon to spread legal terrorism, to extort meaningless amount of money as ransom for avoiding arrest by filing false dowry cases against them, you can see the history if a newly wedded wife complaints, she would claim husband is an impotent, after passing some months or years the allegation becomes dowry harassment, domestic violence is so freely put in all cases as you say a vegetable vendor to put some coriander with some green chillies for free in the vegetables bought by you,my wife accused me of dowry harassment and domestic violence charges, whereas i hadn’t even touched her without keeping in mind about her consent and comfortability, reason of her differences between us is her mother that’s why i was washing my clothes with my own hands on her directions, they were demanding divorce, permanent custody of our son child, thirty lacks of rupees as ransom ,for extracting this ransom amount, names of my parents were also included by in this false criminal complaint who not even stepped in our separate house where my wife was living alone just along with me and our child and reason for all this was just that i had not attended a marriage function of her mama’s daughter, she left 7 days earlier saying if you will not come to attend it i will head for divorce and the only way for her family to get their wishes fulfilled was to file a false complaint, i was neither eager nor able to fulfill their demands, besides I had provided voluminous documantary evidence to prove my innocence but in vain as a result i was arrested on 4th of June and got bail on the 6th June (the day of her birthday) after they got all my household items all furniture which i bought 4-5 years earlier before my marriage, they left nothing even salt, pepper, spices, my undergarments, my clothes, soaps, detergent, they robbed everything they could, and are showing themselves as a very reputed persons in HIND CINEMA premises of kaithal, Haryana but reality sights among them who faces it, kisi ne kaha hai ” aap mare bina swarg kisne dekha ” .at least there should be a fair investigation with proofs before arresting to defame a husband which is his right of humanity, and justice should be done looking it genderlessly.
Arrest may seem humiliating or whatever else, but it is not the same as proven guilty… For most of Indian public, arrest seems to be same as delivery of justice. What’s perplexing is that if having criminal cases and arrest is so bad, why do Indians keep voting for the politicians with multiple criminal cases against them?; and many a time voting for politicians who are fighting the case inside jail? THEY are innocent, but I must be guilty!
Regarding police/CAW putting pressure to compromise: The sad reality is many people who face these issues ACTUALLY do compromise in terms of ‘settling’ the case by paying money and getting the coveted so called ‘mutual divorce’ and buying peace. As long as that keeps happening, police/CAW/advocates will keep pushing the new cases into the compromise pipeline. I mean it works out for everyone: husband gets ‘freedom/peace/chance to remarry’, husband’s parents get possibility of real ‘bahu’ next time and then grandchildren, wife/in-laws get their money, police gets the bribe (and added satisfaction of having ‘solved’ a case esp against a woman!), advocates get their fees rather quick. A win-win-win-win situation in MBA speak.
http://menrightsindia.net/2014/10/what-to-do-if-caw-cellpoliceadvocate-is-putting-pressure-to-compromise.html
http://menrightsindia.net/2014/10/innocent-until-proven-guilty-is-the-law-use-it.html
Very well done videv, i m having no words to express my feelings, all i can say is just hats off to u bro
Dear sir,
My marriage on 24th nov. 2012 . after marriage I came back outside of India . when I am here out of India then my wife inform about his past means she has love affairs and she want to marriage that guise so she want to separate with me and she told me she don’t want to stay with me so when I return back to india that time she write me notary and she was accept everything by herself, even after this notary I told her I forget to everything so throw this notary but she what think I don’t know so came back again my job. Out of india ,when 1 years completed I told her I want to take you with me so we can stay together but when she got this massage she call her father and told me about wrong . then his father take her and when my mother told her inform to Rajesh then his father shouted and got angry . ok after continue 2 month I approach my wife but she didn’t receive my call which one I called from out of india and her all family member din ’t allowed to call her .my family also try to call her but her parents not allowed .after 4 month his father give to register to my name in notice he write I make harass. And they want money from me 2.5 million when I try to meet they not accepted and now last Friday their family put fake dowry case against to my family and they told my family -demand we have to satisfy otherwise they have big vasta to police and they by forcedly make us in trouble like this when my family told them how you asking 2.5 million inr money in we are innocent even I have all proof to prove they have wrong but still his father and her family blackmail me and my family and asking 25 lakh money other they put with police support to wrong cases per her father sentence .please I want help to media like wrong people to marriage like NRE person and instead of make relation they interested only money and misuse the low it is shameful in our county I want who give me support when I have proof against them .please help me and my family because they also give warning to my family they don’t allowed to my family in Vadodara city may be by forcedly make harm to my family . please help me and give us good guide I am outside of India and my family in Vadodara city in Gujarat ,.
I can’t understand all the details but I guess your self-assessment score would have crossed 100 easily.
Your family can contact MRAs in Gujarat itself. Ahmedabad has few activists, not sure about Vadodara. Easiest way is to call SIF One 08882 498 498 and ask them about closest activists to your city. AND join them rather than just calling them to ask for some legal tips/judgments etc.
Let me clear this common misconception that the activists will come to your home, or take victims’ story to the media to show how innocent they are. There are 1 lakh 498a cases alone filed every year, and media mostly is least interested in such stories, except from woman’s angle.