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The women Cell procedure goes like as follows :-
1.
Go there without fear and ask them the copy of the complaint, give it in
writing. They will ask you to give something in writing. In your statement
mention that you may kindly be given the copy of complaint so that you can
properly give your submission. Never admit any allegation of wife.
Ask IO to give receipt of your statement if refuses show him the RTI in
which they accepted that they give receiving of statement if someone asks.
If he refuses to give the copy of complaint, then mention in your statement
that IO has refuesed to provide copy of complaint.
Don’t forget to write in your statement that you are ready for any kind of
counselling to save your marriage. Mention in your each statement that wife
is not ready (if she is no willing) you don’t want to break your marriage.
2.
Your wife will say blah blah blah ………… (Remember everything is
getting recorded and is being monitorere in CAW in Camera and Mic)
3.
After 2 sitting they will ask wife to bring list of articles that are in
the custoday of husband.
Before accepting check that it should be properly addressed to like Joint.
C.P. CAW Cell or IO CAW Cell and should be properly signed by wife along
with name and address. If not aske her to do the same before accepting.
Accept it if ok. Don’t argue. Just tell or give in writing that you will
submit your reply in next date.
4.
In next date submit your admit list mentionoing that you are willing to
return the items provided she can produced the bills to your satisfaction.
(mention in your statement). (Later go for sale tax deptt. for verfication
of bills or to shop keeper.)
You will be given next date. Or you can ask them that you will deposite the
stridhan through court only. This will be helpful to you in getting your AB.
5.
Each time mention that you have been not provided copy of complaint . (Even
if you get chance to read the complaint.) Sometimes they let you read the
complaint. request them to note down if possible.
6.
If they ask to present before ACP. Means its time for FIR.
Normall it takes 3 months . They can registere FIR now.
For other details come to weekly meeting.
Vijay Naru
No Defeat is Final Till You Stop Trying
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Hi Sir,
I am a bisexual guy and got married on 18th Nov. I was in a dillema abt my sexual orientation as to should i deny for marriage and tell evrything to my parents but due to courage i decided to tell my fiance about it thinking she would call off this marriage as she seeemed to be understanding enough. In Oct 2018 i met her personally at her hometown with one of my straight friends who knws abe me and told her evrything and asked her to forgive me and deny for marriage as i can’t tell me parents but she gained sympathy as her sister is also sitting home after marriage (tried to kill her husband which we got to knw later) and made me trust that she is ok and understands me and after marriage evrything will be fine. Later, in dec after our honeymoon she started complaining her parents and my parents that i don’t love her the way the husband does and started fighting. Until now i was not aware of her plannings i used to do nite shift and one day when i woke up her father and uncles were at my house and she captured my phone, laptop and personal diary and handed over to them and told them evrything and to my parents too. My parents asked me to be with her as husband but i was not able to be as this all was happened and i completely lost my trust care love i used to do her. After thier parents asked me to leave the job and city and move back to my hometown i did.. because i know wht she was doing i asked my parents to install CCTV cameras so she cannot put any allegations for domestic violence and such things. On 20th Feb she forcefully removed those cameras which we do have footage and then called police telling them that we beat her and abuse her and telling tham that i am gay.. On 25th Feb she again call police and when police asked to call her parents as they did knw she was lying she managed to create a suicidal scene and posted her videos on social media. We admited her to hospital under police custody and now we have a complaint filed on 17th May 2019 about me being gay (i am bisexual) and beating and abusing her as she did not fullfill our dowry demands of 10lac cash and a fortuner.
For dowry allegations, you have to fight based on evidence (or argue about lack of it).
Police is not believing her story, so that shows that the criminal case is very weak.
Since you told her before marriage about being bisexual (hope you have some proof of visit to her city and that friend accompanying you), she can’t claim that it was hidden. But sympathy may not be expected from legal system esp because people will judge a bisexual to have dual options, it will have to be fought properly. Check history of the family esp her sister’s case.
She had access of my phone and gmail account as there was nothing to hide.. She mighg have my pictures with my partner or may be videos. My lawyer is filing an RCR and am not sure will that help. She has filed domestic violence, dowry and interim maintainece case against me. We have already given her the jewelery but she denied all that in Women cell and said she destroyed cameras because we asked her to do it. What should we do.
Filing RCR is an old favourite technique of both advocates and unsophisticated clients which is supposed to get a husband bail easily, reduce maintenance etc – except it doesn’t work! In fact, filing RCR can lead to judge awarding higher maintenance since it’s normal to assume such a “loving husband” will not mind paying a few thousand extra to his beloved wife! It probably could have worked if wife didn’t file any cases on husband, which is probably why AFTER filing RCR one is usually bombarded with multiple cases, much more than if he hadn’t.
What type of storage options were there in CCTV – local SD card or on a connected server? What is the point of doing so much evidence work, and then humbly prostrating in front of wife to agree to her removing the CCTV and taking it away?
All such females tell the same story in CAW cell that their jewellery is still with husband/in-laws. Nothing new. Learn to stay tough and repeat the same to police that she has taken jewellery already and she destroyed CCTV for the same reason.
Did you get video of her suicide drama? Do you know how to use it in your favour? If you file RCR after all that, it will definitely create the impression that you have something to hide or the fault must be yours. This is what the lawyers don’t tell before filing RCR, they are all blindly following the ‘herd’!
Don’t post any more questions in reply.
I want to be divorce to my wife xxx because he was already sex with yyy I told to her this wrong but she was saying who the hell are you, so please suggest for divorce
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plz send me ur no.
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Dear Sir,
I was married in Delhi on 16 May 2010. After one month of my marriage due to disputes between my parents and my wife, my kitchen got separated from my parents and me and my wife along with our kid have been living on third floor of the same house with separate a) kitchen, b) electricity connection, c) gas connection and phone connection. There has been no incident of domestic violence in the last 7.7 years and no MLC has been done. On 07 June 2017, my sister was made to drink harpik by her in laws in gurgaon, due to which she came back to our house. My wife’s parents have always been demanding property from my father. On 29 June 2017 my wife locked herself in the room and kept herself locked for 2 days. We called up police and then in front of police and her parents and other relatives door was opened. Her parents and 12 relative came to our house and demanded property from my father. I again called up police and in front of police she said that she want divorce from me. She left along with her parents. On the next day she lodged a complaint in police station saying that me and my mother were trying to kill her, I was helping my jeeja to molest her. etc. It also has all the ingredients for 498A and 406. A Complaint was also registered in Women Cell, Malviya Nagar. The case was referred for counselling and also to family welfare committee. Everyone, till now has said that we should try and resolve this and should live together. In the meanwhile, she has also filed DV against me, my father, my mother, my both younger sisters and my jeeja in Tis Hazari. First date of the case is on 22 Feb 2018. In DV petitiomn she is asking for Rs. 3 crores as damages and 3,30,000 per month as maintenance. When my wife left me, I was suffering from tinnitus and wasnt even able to walk properly. In January this year my father was operated twice for cancer in urinary bladder.
She has also alleged that her father has spent around 1 crore till now from marriage on me and my wife and that is part of streedhan.
Please help.
My case is with CAW cell Delhi right now and I am to submit my response to the list she brought on the previous date. In the list she wrote her jewelry, marriage expenses, shagun cash envelop details, items exchanged at the time of engagement ring ceremony before marriage. My question is what exactly I have to admit here. Because the items that I truly have are my engagement ring, a pair of shoes and a watch. Do I need to admit to return my engagement ring? Do I admit to return the shoes and watch? There is an online transaction that she might have made in the past and she wrote that too. Do I admit to return that amount too? What should be my statements or reply to this exactly?
Admit things you are aware of, and deny others if you know it to be false, or say you are unaware if it’s not in your knowledge.
Read for details:
menrightsindia.net/2015/01/dowry-stridhan-cruelty-under-498a-marriage-expenses-and-more.html
Sir,
My cousin brother got married 5 years back. he has a 3 years old child. in december last year she filed a dowry and harassment case against her father-in-law also accused him of attempt to rape. Since then whole family is disturbed. She lives at the 2nd floor with her husband and their child. Some days back she said that she wants divorce and demanded a large sum of money (Rs 25 lakh) in return she will withdraw the cases.
During this period she has been very aggressive and she used to leave home frequently without informing her husband. Her behavior was suspicious. She was seen at a hospital with a guy who used to live on rent in the same building. Some days back they both were seen on a bike by a relative of us. He chased them but that guy jumped red light and ran away. After that my brother contacted her asking about where she was. she
said nothing and misbehaved with him and warned him( tujhe toh main ghar aa ke dekhungi) instead. He filed a complaint against the guy in police station. The guy was called by police after he came he was made to call her. after that she appeared in police station. After that day my brother is staying at my relative’s house.
What should my uncle and brother do now?
You will need to fight the dowry harassment case anyway. It’s not clear why brother started staying at relative’s house after complaining to police about the guy etc.
Any evidence about her current boyfriends etc can be useful but she could also claim that she started having new relationship only after dowry harassment and other torture by husband/in-laws etc. Such evidence can be useful to certain extent if used at right time in right way inside court, which most people don’t know how to. It could help in child custody case too but that doesn’t seem to be the question or concern here.
She does not allow him meet his child and frequently warns him of filing false complaints of violence against Him and his family. That’s why in order to be safe he does not live with her.
The guy who she was found with used to live in the same building some 2 years back. That’s much earlier than when she filed False Dowry harassment case. Both had admitted in Police Station that she was willfully going with him.
And of course My cousin Brother will fight for child custody.
Sir what kind of evidences should we collect to come strong?
Please Help
Sir, i have got married on 28/4/17, now my wife filed a complaint against me in CAW cell that i am asking for dowry and domestic violence. when i have got married after 2 or 4 day my wife talking to another guy at late night and messaging him. when i asked her who is he she said he is my lover and i want to marry her but my parents forced fully did my marriage with you. when i asked this thing to her parents they said she’s lieing. after this incident they started fighting with me and put wrong alligation on me and my family members. one day i have notice that she walking like a handicap person, when i asked her why you walking like this she said i have swelling in my toes that why,but few day after she walking like same. then i have decided to go for a check-up to doctor, doctor did a x ray of her and the x ray report came to me, i can’t tell u how i feel that time because doctor said she’s have rod and 5 screws in her right leg in a simple way she’s a handicap.
when i asked her about this why you didn’t tell me this before marriage she said my mother and father forced me to hide that thing from you.
After that she started fight with me and trying many times threatening to commit suicide and locks the door and tries to hang herself. Then i had a complaint on 100 no. against her that she trying to commit suicide in front of me and my parents. then police came but they did noting.
Now i live seperately alone in other place on rent, misfortune my relative death i went their for few days and when i came back i saw that she with her parents and help of key maker man she took all belongings from the house.And now in CAW cell I.O. gave me a list of articles of her and ask me to you also make a list of articles of her. But she already take the whole thing from the house now which list should i give to I.O.
Please help me to out from this mess..
>>complaint on 100 no. against her that she trying
They give a docket number when you call. File RTI on police wireless department and get a transcript or whatever record/document you have of this PCR call.
You will have to deal with CAW cell/stridhan list etc like everyone else. However there is one strong thing in your case which is a medically provable instance of fraud/hiding of information about wife before marriage (xray report). So you can file for annulment of marriage. Now most lawyers will suggest to financially settle/give mutual divorce to wife, because they themselves don’t have any experience or confidence fighting based on law; so that’s something you have to manage yourselves by just telling the lawyer to follow your own strategy.
Hi Sir, My brother go married in last year July. she is our relative also. We didn’t know her nature before. from the very next day of marriage she is started fighting my brother, she is very suspicious nature. Simply she is torturing him even if he comes home around 7PM also but those words are very filthy in nature, we cant hear as well. Main issue is she is always threatening to commit suicide and locks the door and tries to hang herself or pierce her hand with bangles etc., So, we had even informed them regarding her nature. They admitted that she does in her parental home like that. Between in Jan’17 one small function was there. On that day her brother and her family people fought with us and destroyed our thinks and so many arguments etc. happened. Then we filed a case in the local police station. They asked them to come for enquiry but they refused to come saying let them file case we will put dowry case like that. Then that case is still pending.
Now she has 3months old kid. She is threatening to pour complete bottle of syrup into baby’s mouth and kill, then will kill myself. will leave a death note mentioning all of you. in my home two of us are govt. employees. So they are saying that they will file dowry case and disturb our job etc.,
Dowry thing is not there. Her nature itself being quarrelsome. My brother is disturbed a lot. Mental torture always. In a day 4-5 times she is doing. Always fighting with my brother, if others asks she says no problem between us(if his sister leaves the house I will not fight — my sister is married and husband not taking care – hence she is at my home.)
On chain of fights last week one day my brother got upset and stopped coming to home but he was in the village only. After three days she called her brother and told him to remove the fuse carrier from our bore-well connection as my brother was sleeping in that room. So he broken the lock and did the same. Very next day they approached one uncle in my place for settling down the issue. Hence we told ask them to bring 4-5 elders and we will call our people also and discuss. Since he was mediating my brother slept in that uncle house’ terrace room. She informed her brother reg this hence he drunk and came and beaten my brother.
Please advice how to handle this.
There is no generic advice how to handle.
Keep pursuing your old complaint to PS and keep copies of it. That’s very important proof of you having filed a complaint before wife did.
Secondly, if any beating/threat from other side complaint to PS is a must immediately. Even if you wait for few days police will ignore husband’s complaint. Send it by speed post to SP or higher authorities in police if local PS doesn’t accept, which they often don’t.
Inspite of she starting fight from second day of marriage, your brother decided to have a child, probably going by the conventional ‘wisdom’ that wife will improve behaviour after having a child. Now it gets even more complicated.
>>if he comes home around 7PM also but those words are very filthy in nature, we cant hear as well.
Can you at least start recording such incidents, even if you can’t hear. Without evidence, it’s very difficult for husband to fight it later on in court etc.
Hello,
I was married in 15Jan2017. My inlaws are very aggressive and Prudy. They filed a case of dowry and torches against me in women cell. In second counseling. I was agree to live with her.
Now she is living with me since last three weeks but they are not closing the case. I am not sure what I can do.
They are trying to blame on my mother again and again even if she have not meet or talk to her since last 5 months. My next hearing is after a week in front of my DSP women cell and they are asking to take my mother with me there.
What will happen if I don’t went there. I don’t want to involve my mother in this mess.
Please Help.
These cases are not meant to be closed. You will always remain more of accused than husband in eyes of law as long as wife chooses it to be.
Women cell can’t force anyone to come. They can file FIR at max. Read latest SC Jul 2017 judgment and ask for case to be sent to family welfare committee of your district instead of CAW cell.
Hi i married 10 months back to my wife… since very beginning she did not understand her role as a married woman and also her parents. she always annoy and fight with me on small issues daily. Now situation is much worse. in fact she wants my separation from my family and also wants me to help her father financially. when i refused she said i will put false dowry and domestic violence case against me. one week before my in-laws without informing came to my house and violently beaten me and my family members. after 4 days she filed her complaint in CAW cell ghaziabad and i m asked to go there after 10 days. however i made complaint in writing on the very next day of the incident to DCP, CP, human right commission and local police station. i m fearful of CAW cell. Please advice me…..
Thanks
Making complaint to police etc was the right step, now you have to follow up with those and make sure it gets converted to FIR. And read articles and some basic guidelines as given on this site. There is no straight formula or painkiller which can take the troubles away.
Sir I got married last year and my in laws had throw me out of their house .. And it is not first time it is 3red time . their issues are so strange like 7 ‘o clock uthti hai chura ni pehnti n many more like this. .. They every time threatened me that they will re marry their son without giving me divorce . a police complaint was made against them earlier and the officer had resolved the matter .my in laws gave him a statement that I they will not expel me out of their house and again did that. .. Please sir tell me what I have to do
You went to police and they resolved it, so probably the complaint was found to be without merit, because normally filing FIR is not that difficult.
I was married on16 April2016,after one year my husband and in-laws alleged that I talks with my school time friend,and made a consipericy with Delhi police and thrown me out of my matrimonial home bare handed.All my dowery items, jewelry and other satridhan items are with them.I filed a complaint in CAW cell.After 3 counsellings at caw cell the matter is with DSP and he has been managed by my in-laws and he is not sending the case after verification.kindly help me what should I do?
If you have proof that DSP and others are all under ‘management’ of in-laws, you can complain to higher police. CAW process can take few months anyway, and everything in police doesn’t happen as per complainant’s wishes.
My case is totally different as my inlaws used to take money from me and fortunately I gave most of them through check.i was in africa at the time of marriage and after 4 month of rejoining I bought her there with me..my wife is living with her parents for last 20 month and she went to caw cell and file all false case like dowry and all.I wrote in my first application that my answer is same as one year before that she can come and will live with us in himachal as my dad is very old and he need someone to look after him but she denied as she want to do job in Delhi.before 3rd meeting I came to know about her false story and then I wrote I want justice now.now they asked for list of articles in next date
Lose your illusions that your case is special, and others are dowry-seekers. Many people have given money to in-laws, it’s ignored by police routinely.
The CAW cell and stridhan/dowry routine has started, there is no escape from this except to stick to your stand and facts as you know them.
3months back I married it’s arrange marriage as Hindu,the girls had a skin analysis problem we can’t sleep together it’s cruel n not comfort to see the body only however can’t continue in sexual level. Now thier parents are demanding by phone money n maintenance. They cheated me without informing like she had a skin problems n all. Now they r mentally torchering to me n my family . Is thier any potion I can lodge a complaint against my wife n thier family???
At maximum you can file for annulment of marriage citing fraud. We don’t get involved in guiding people on divorce/annulment etc, so suggest to read this book:
Guide for Men on Divorce, Cruelty, Desertion, Annulment (only in Kindle Edition)
My brother wife complaint in women’s Police station.she said my brother took her gold and runaway.2 months before my brother’s wife’s parents came to my brother house.they said they want money 60 thousand rupees for treatment of his wife.we said she have mild shoulder pain.doctor told like that.but her parents refuse to listen.they said doctor telling lies.we need money to take another hospital.my brother said I have no money now.My wife have her gold u sold and give money to my wife.but her parents said my son have marriage we don’t want to sell.this all is we have voice recording.is it voice recording useful in women police station
Voice recording may be useful but in our glorious PS seem to have a mandate to ignore all evidence against wife/in-laws… so don’t have high hopes there but if it works, then well and good. Else keep it for trial if that time comes.
I’m married in 22nd april 2016. During marriage my in law argue with us in marriage for silly reason, after that my wife and me were just friends instead of husband wife till one month.after that everything is normal we feel, but again after 20 days every time she used to goto her parental home and come to our home after arguements only.this happened twice before one major incident took place she filed false NC against my parents about torture and take her all jwellery before she moved to her parental home, she moved to her parental home had some heated arguements later on we had meeting with our relatives and finally agreed to give her one more chance for our relationship. I had all her audio records to prove it is false NC but we forgive her and her father taken back their NC sametime we also withdraw cross NC filed against them .but after 3 days returning to our home she started same thing about doing some dramas and rumoous to all our relatives that we are torchuring to her we asked and discussed her reason for it but she lie everytime. Now she moved to her parental home 4 months back threatened us we torture her for dowry (I have recorded this conversation) now we asked to filed case against us i.e. proved we have tortured you and asked for dowry. because we know we treat he very well. till date she never accept any mistake done by her and we are forgive her for our relations and prestige in society. as well as my wife also know we have all evidence still she doing all these things because we forgive her everytime, these people thinking law is to protect woman and doing vilification of my parents and about me also till date. there are so many false actions by my wife and in laws done till date but these are the major incident I have highighted, please suggest.
Can I file FIR aginst because I have evidence about previous false NC and all false action by my wife and in laws. Now threatening by these people to us about dowry and torture done by family members.
>>Can I file FIR aginst because I have evidence about previous false NC and all false action by my wife and in laws.
You can try reading IPC and anyway even otherwise complain to police but false NC by wife etc against husband is considered least important by police. And since you forgive her everytime, so they also want to continue with their drama.
thanks for reply .. I will read IPC so I can get some solution ..
PLEASE HELP ME !!
my brother got marriage last year feb. After that brother’s wife demand money to my brother for her family approx 5times. Last time she demand money 2 lac for her family, and my brother refuse it again n again. Due to this my brother’s in laws pressure on my brother and my family and told that i will file case against all of you. My brother and my father both are government employee. So that we are very much afaired . My brother’s in-laws abused my brother and mom and dad. They also thereated us to kill of you.
>>government employee. So that we are very much afaired .
Or if you were working in private job/MNC, then people say: “I am afraid to lose my job, and how will I get a new job?”. Fear is a common thing for everyone, reasons are different. It won’t get you any sympathy in the System, so better appear to be confident about the whole situation.
>>My brother’s in-laws abused my brother and mom and dad. They also thereated us to kill of you.
Any recordings taken? Most probably not… usually I have seen wives will take 1-2 recordings with pre-planning, but husbands don’t take anything even after multiple incidents.
Since brother has been paying, where is the question of false dowry case, your brother should be one filing cases if the law existed for men. But anyway, use that as evidence as and when time comes.
Main problem is having confidence and courage in such situations, which most Indians lack
Guyz i am a little confused, kindly suggest me
i got married on 1/12/2011 and we stayed together for 2-3 months the one day she called her brother and went to her parental home with him after trying for 5-6 months she agreed that we should give it another shot and we moved to dwarka where she stayed only for 2 months and on 28/09/2012 she again went to her parental home and is staying there since. Now we have been living separately for almost 3 years around two months back she filled a complaint in women cell.
what i want to know is what happens now as she has been living there with her own wish
Hi pankaj, Is this deliberately done before completing 3 years? Since you had a 3 yr long time of living separately, did that helped you in anyway (CAW, police, court)?
hi,
after 3 years of sucessful marriage,i dont know why my wife left me..she took away all jewellery and also many cloths now she gone from 1 month..i tried many times to convience her but i failed ,,now i got letter from CAW for meeting..how i can online register for RTI?
I got marriage on 30/11/11 after marriage I found this marriage is solemanise on lie. That before marriage they tell me that she is a c.a but she was just 10+2 and working under Ca and she has no interest in house hold work and after 7 months she goes to parental home for routine meeting but she have a mind to never come back afterwards she files fake court cases against me and family domestic violence and sec125 and in courts honable judge suggest us to stay separate from family she lives with me around 8 months but fails and she again said that she is not safe with me and again comes to parental home and court fix 2200 as interim now she file a complaint with women cell in which she agreed to stay with me …. Now what I do stay with her or deny ? I m so much confused pl help I always have same words in every place I want to get her back and stay with her .now it is safe to get her back?
It is not safe at all for you… you are potentially facing a 498a case in near future. Saving maintenance is all very good but saving dignity is worth everything.
Read more at post below. Call and meet up with nearest MRAs:
http://menrightsindia.net/2014/09/advice-to-men-on-498a-maintenance-dv-divorce-child-custody-what-else.html
Hi my wife is criminal mind ans she always said the she’ll go women cell / police station and arrest you and your whole family some she sain this in midnights i tried many times to save my marriage life but she repeted always like she have a contact with lawyers / police and she totally harassing and threnting / mental pressure and many time she try to suside and tell that i already made a sucide note but she clearly tell i dont want divorce so after 1.5 yr of my i file divorse case and now she filed case in women cell / domestic violance / maintance and every where she tell that i want to live with him but my statement always that i want cos she will kill me.. pls advice…